I believe being part of the solution means educating ourselves first, helping to educate those around us & encouraging them to educate those around them & so on.⠀
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George Floyd, racism, inequality, white privilege, protests, riots are all I’ve been thinking about...⠀
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Admist my uncertainty & deep empath sadness for what’s going around us, I realized, I am highly uneducated & not very culturally diverse in a lot of this (ignorant for lack of better words but open af to learning) ⠀
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I told Cody today, “I don’t really have any knowledge or experience with other cultures, it’s like I’ve lived in a small town bubble...” it’s not my fault where I was born or how I grew up, but it is my choice how I proceed, act + grow, as an adult & knowing RIGHT from WRONG.⠀
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It is never my intention to speak out & say something that offends or upsets anybody in a way I hadn’t meant. I’m uncomfortable & I’m here to listen, learn, support & expand my mind. ⠀
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I know one thing for certain; racism is not & has never been OK. I wish I could say something with better words to make more of an impact. It just doesn’t feel like enough...⠀
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It makes me painfully sad — honestly sick & embarrassed for our country that this is even happening today. How could we treat someone differently & unfairly based on a skin color?! THATS INSANE, we KNOW better! Sadly, a lot of people struggle with & battle it daily — a battle I could never never possibly understand. ⠀
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Idk if this resonates with you, but thanks for reading this far if you did & if you’ve felt this uncomfortable pressure to stand up, to help & you obviously want to but don’t know where to start, I get it. Start with checking in with self, educating YOU & then help those closest to you.⠀
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We must shift our perspective & the way we THINK so we can positively INFLUENCE the world around us to change for the better.⠀
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A book that was suggested to me; “white fragility: why it’s so hard for white people to talk about racism” & a documentary on Netflix called, “13th”⠀
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If you have any helpful educational resources, books, pages to follow, causes to support?!, please share below! ⠀
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Ignorance is not bliss.
4 yrs ago, without his income, I couldn’t afford to live MY life.⠀
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I use to think, “wow if we weren’t married, I couldn’t even afford rent for my own place..” I was the girl that said “sorry, I can’t go, I’m too broke” friends offered to pay for me & it was embarrassing..⠀
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Last weekend, a stranger at the lake told me he wanted to pursue a career like mine but never did. He asked me how much money I made as a coach. I was a little shocked because that was the first conversation ever with our campsite neighbor & I’m usually the one shamelessly asking income q’s.⠀
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He prob asked so he could not feel as bad about not going after what he wanted because if my answer was doo he’d be like “GOOD, glad I didn’t” or maybe he was just nosey.. ⠀
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Idc, I told him. his eyes blew out of his head, immediately turned around & pretended to walk away but then came back & said good for us🤪(he was nice, borrowed our axe for firewood)⠀
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Because of coaching I’ve been able to build something over the yrs that’s allowed me to feel SO INDEPENDENT & I’m grateful.⠀
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I share (never to brag) but because I know there are women out there like me who wanna hold their own but feel stuck! WE DESERVE THIS!⠀
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I remember having to ask Cody for money if I wanted something ‘extra.’ My income BARELY covered “my portion” of the bills. Every paycheck was spoken for in bills, before I even got it. if I spent ‘my’ money on extras, I’d be short, give some sob story, ask him to cover if OR use a CC. racking up debt that sat on my chest like the heaviest rock… now that dude be forgetting his wallet everywhere..🤣⠀
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As a new coach, my first check was under $15. I was STOKED “WOW extra gas money HOW COOL!!” that’s when I knew this was real & how HUGE this could be if I just stayed COACHABLE, learning, & kept trying to be a better PERSON than I was the day before.⠀
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Days like today, it just hits me different, I can afford to LIVE my LIFE… To feel like THAT in times like THIS are exactly why I never give up when this business gets uncomfortable.. having money hold me back was way more uncomfortable.⠀
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Posts I read from my coach like this, are what inspired TF out of me to start. If she can, I can
& every step of the way, someone has made fun of me. body, food choices, workouts, outfits — & every time I say; F em! Still here doin me & I like it. ⠀⠀⠀
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If you’ve ever experienced this, I’m sorry, it sucks but it’s not ABOUT YOU.⠀⠀⠀
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When you change for the better, you initiate a movement that needs to happen in your circle, others realize they need to step up their game. your actions shine a light on their lack of - some people spend extra effort telling themselves they’re “good” & “fine” when they are most def not. (That was ME) BUT what they say doesn’t affect you, unless you ALLOW it to. Their words hold 0 power unless you give yours away. ⠀⠀⠀
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It’s OK, to tell people NO.⠀⠀⠀
to refuse food that makes you feel like shit.⠀⠀⠀
to remove yourself from situations & people that no longer serve your highest good. ⠀⠀⠀
to be different.⠀⠀⠀
to bring your own food.⠀⠀⠀
to set boundaries.⠀⠀⠀
to keep BEING THE LIGHT.⠀⠀⠀
Even if they don’t like it.⠀⠀⠀
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At the end of the day, if you’re happy, give 0 fucks away. Keep them ALL for things that MATTER. #sendlove #blessandrelease the unsolicited projections of others.⠀⠀⠀
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My goal has always been mental health + self confidence, being a strong woman & building healthy curves.⠀⠀⠀
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All of that STARTED with putting myself first & not caring who didn’t like it.⠀⠀⠀
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I just wanted to love what I saw in the mirror for once. It’s never been about what anyone else thinks of me or prefers my body to look like.⠀⠀⠀
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It’s never been about ‘eating less’ but eating MORE of what makes me feel good on the inside & look good (TO MYSELF) on the outside..⠀⠀⠀
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+lil bit of weighted home exercise programs to assist in reshaping & the support of a health focused community that ‘gets it’ & won’t make fun of my food choices at family functions or at work, out of discomfort of my new lifestyle due to own lack of self care. (O, shit😜)⠀⠀⠀
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I’m proof af that we don’t have to settle for ‘fine’ if we don’t want to👊🏼 *if you’ve ever considered getting results beside me, totally here to help you get started - iz my job, send me a message -no pressure 🙌🏼⠀⠀⠀
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p.s. I don’t pay my bills with other people’s opinions, do you?
I feel brand new from our unintentional 2 days without cell service - my phone was JUST a camera the whole time. It was rejuvenating AF. I 10/10 suggest everyone take a break out in nature, to disconnect from the noise of the world & reconnect to self/ w spouse 😍 — even if it’s just a day trip. Feels like a huge weight lifted off me, almost like I hit the mental reset button & I can breathe again. I always forget how much I NEED THIS until I do it and I’m like wow... so this was the answer the whole time, nature. I couldn’t stop telling Cody how much I loved that we didn’t have service. We’re always so ‘busy’ w work & tasks, phones, tv.. that were both always distracted by something. This weekend we were forced to be fully present and it was everything. 100% already planning our next overlanding trip out into another forest, really wanna go back and do a camp on a trail we did near Lake Tahoe a few months ago! The terrain was so versatile & the views were dreamy! 🌲 I’m home now, it’s 107° & I have already fully unpacked the truck, suitcase, bags, snacks, ice chests, jet ski, washed both dogs, picked up our mail, grocery shopped & am ready for some good introverting / realignment 😅😋 **p.s. I took this photo by myself with my camera propped up on someone’s “truly” can while using my Apple Watch as a preview/ clicker. 😏🤘🏼
We got the girls 🐶🐶 life vests so they could ride too! I didn’t go too fast just trying to get them comfortable staying put. Usually when we ride they sit on their butts facing out on either side, sandwiched between the two of us. 😂 I get such a kick out of all the cool stuff our pups get to do with us. They don’t even know how rad their lives are 😍 Also, Cody installed an ice chest for snacks + drinks (that mounts on the back of the ski & stays secure during jumps/tricks), I got a *new to me* (secondhand off Mercari, girl said she bought it and never even used it 😍) Hyperlite vest that fits my new body properly - excited for that steal deal LOL & Cody custom installed a slumpin’ 4 marine speaker system that bluetooths to his Apple Watch for tunes (& he put on a custom exhaust) I’m pretty sure we both said, “omg this ski is so perfect” like 10 times this weekend. The only thing it was missing in this photo was him. We def want to get a second one. 🤪 #dialed #seadoospark #seadoosparktrixx
